Many years ago, just for fun, I took a creative writing class at a community college. In that class we read an excerpt from a story which was part of Drown, an anthology written by Junot Diaz. (The part we were assigned was the part where Yunior, the protagonist, got carsick while riding in a van with his father.) A long time after that, I read that Junot Diaz had written another anthology titled, This Is How You Lose Her, in which Yunior was again the main character. That anthology was an examination of the life of a young man, inwardly sensitive and looking for genuine love, yet outwardly macho, whose machismo led him to sabotage all his relationships with women by using them as objects and cheating on them. At the end of the road, the pain of multiple rejections caused him to introspect and face the reality of his character and cultural influences, and to own the consequences of his actions.
Here's a disclaimer: The summary I have just sketched is a condensed version of other summaries of the book. I haven't read it personally, other than skimming excerpts of a couple of its stories, because although I could see the strength and talent of Diaz in the story I read for the creative writing class, I found his style a bit too gritty for my taste. Yet the central premise of This Is How You Lose Her is intriguing in light of current events. I am thinking of "The Cheater's Guide to Love," and wondering how widely a cheater's reputation spreads among his potential victims once one of them catches on to the fact that he's a cheater. I am also thinking of how rare it is that people who look at others as objects to be exploited ever come to the point where they are genuinely, healthily sorry for their actions. I am also thinking of the perspective of the characters who were cheated by Yunior: were there ever any instances in which two or more of them met and began to compare notes on him as a way of making sense of their own experiences? (In order to find out, I guess I'd have to read the book.)
That last question is central to today's blog post. Each of us deals with diverse characters in the course of day-to-day life. And sometimes those dealings involve conflict between individuals. Each side in such conflicts has his or her own story, and frequently each side tries to recruit a "jury" of his or her peers to render a favorable judgment on his or her side of the conflict. But if you're a member of such a potential jury, and you have been trashed by one of the parties in the conflict, your experience will color your judgment of each side's claims in the present conflict. Let's say then that a few of Yunior's exes met by chance, and that they all knew a woman who was currently involved with him (and being cheated on by him). If she complained to her acquaintances about his cheating, whom would they be more likely to believe? Her or him?
'Three black men released after 18 years in prison on wrongful murder convictions' (this group is different from the three in the first article),
'Exonerations in the United States, 1989-2012' (especially starting at page 30),
'How Often Do Wrongful Convictions Involve Black Defendants?' (The answer is between 71 and 73 percent.)